第1章 Praise for Power and Love
"Adam's Solving Tough Problems helped me understand that all of our pressing problems-be they strategic issues inside a company or societal challenges like conflict, poverty, or climate change-require that those with a stake and the power to act come together in open dialogue to create a joint diagnosis and a deep commitment to moving forward together. In Power and Love, Adam goes further and deeper, into the kind of leadership that it takes to do this."
-Ravi Venkatesan, Chairman, Microsoft India
"It isn't either-or; it's both-and. In this deceptively brief and clearly written book, Adam Kahane takes us through his own learning process to a way of acting in and on the world that is both effective and caring. Intelligent, insightful, satisfying-and inspiring."
-Mary Catherine Bateson, author of Composing a Life and Willing to Learn
"Kahane is a master practitioner and thinker who knows the highs and lows of solving some of the toughest problems of social discord. Power and Love is both instructive and inspiring."
-Patrick Dodson, winner of the Sydney Peace Prize and Founding Chairman, Council for Aboriginal Reconciliation
"This book is a must-read for business leaders who are coming to recognize that to continue to thrive, business must join forces with interest groups, communities, and government to address the wicked sustainability challenges of our time. Kahane shows us how."
-Diane Osgood, Vice President, Business for Social Responsibility
"The cynical side of me says that Adam Kahane is unique and that it's his personality and presence that enable him to overcome conflict and create constructive resolutions to stalemates in business and society. But the hopeful side says that yes he is special but that his ideas-which he explains so ably in Power and Love-can be used by others. He writes not from theory but from experience-and draws out the lessons from a lifetime of fostering constructive engagement to deal with the toughest challenges."
-Esther Dyson, founder, EDventure Holdings
"This is a superb book: wise and thoughtful."
-W. Brian Arthur, External Professor, Santa Fe Institute, and author of The Nature of Technology
"If we are to move forward on the many challenges humanity faces, only through a symbiosis of power and love can we enable the social change we need, that both unifies and is sufficiently creative. This book offers a glimpse of what a new praxis of creative collective action might look like."
-Ged Davis, former Managing Director, World Economic Forum, and former Vice President, Royal Dutch Shell
"Reconciling extremes is the challenge of our time. Sharing insights born from working in the trenches of the world's toughest social problems, Adam Kahane calls for the extraordinary measure of embracing the wholeness of our power and our love: the hard and soft in us all. By illuminating this 'uncommon way,' Kahane's message joins the stream of the world's most profound and enduring strategic views."
-James Gimian, publisher, Shambhala Sun, and coauthor of The Rules of Victory
"Mahatma Gandhi's life was the unfolding of the deep truth of the need to change oneself if one wants to change the world. Hence his autobiography was titled My Experiments with Truth. Adam's story of his engagements with people in many countries, whom he was called to help in their efforts to change their worlds, is an account of his own realization of Gandhi's insight. An honest and beautifully told story."
-Arun Maira, member, Planning Commission of the Government of India
"In this evocative and beautifully written narrative, Adam Kahane shares his own journey toward a deeper and more life-affirming understanding of the relationship between love and power-both in ourselves and in the systems we work with. His real-life stories and the lessons they reveal are compelling for all of us who work with complex issues involving multiple stakeholders."
-Juanita Brown, cofounder, The World Café
"This is a courageous book. Too few of us who frequent the halls of power are willing to acknowledge the power of love. Not Adam. In this delicate and sensible book, we see a necessary dialectic, an uneasy partnership of power and love that is essential to solving the problems we face."
-Jay Ogilvy, Dean, Presidio Graduate School, and cofounder, Global Business Network
"This is a remarkable book. Kahane fuses his real experience and earned wisdom into a clear new lens through which social change practitioners and theorists can better see how expressions-and shadows-of love and power shape the outcomes of their efforts to solve complex social problems."
-Ross McMillan, President, Tides Canada
"From climate disruption to health care, from poverty to war, the range of seemingly intractable crises we face today is enough to cause despair in even the most hopeful. Yet these are the kinds of problems that Adam Kahane has grappled with around the world. In Power and Love, Kahane uses these experiences to explore why success in the face of complex challenges requires not just a new understanding of the problems but a new understanding of ourselves."
-Jamais Cascio, cofounder,
"Adam Kahane has mined more than two decades of practice to create a brave, concise, compelling reflection about the mistakes he has made, the lessons he has learned, and the hard-earned theory that now guides his work. Power and Love has a humility that is becoming and a depth that is inspiring."
-Katherine Fulton, President, Monitor Institute
"An extraordinarily insightful and powerful analysis of what it takes to lead change and to make a difference in society. Drawing on his own experiences around the world, Kahane uses his skills of acute observation and honest self-reflection to figure out how to effect deep and lasting social change-starting with oneself."
-Fields Wicker-Miurin, cofounder, Leaders' Quest
"Bringing 'power' and 'love' together in resolving the most intractable social problems is not only unusual, it may also seem unreal. Adam Kahane makes it radically mandatory."
-Njabulo Ndebele, former Vice-Chancellor, University of Cape Town, and author of Fine Lines from the Box
"Adam Kahane is a change agent of the first order. His welcome and timely book will help readers refocus and strengthen their commitment and ability to effect much-needed community and societal change."
-Mari Fitzduff, Professor and Director, Masters Program in Coexistence and Conflict, Brandeis University
"This book is written with great insight and revealing honesty. Adam is a wonderful storyteller, grounds his thinking in reality, and in this book gives us a path to making a lasting difference in the world."
-Peter Block, author of Stewardship, The Answer to How Is Yes, and Community
"Power and Love should be read and reread by anyone seriously committed to addressing tough problems."
-Morris Rosenberg, Deputy Minister of Health, Government of Canada
"A timely book that contains clear lessons about how, why, and when systemic, participatory, and generative interventions, aimed at shaping the future, work or fail."
-Angela Wilkinson, Director of Scenario Planning and Futures Research, Institute for Science, Innovation, and Society, University of Oxford
"Effective and sustainable responses to global health challenges require business, government, and civil society to work together in partnership-but such partnerships do not easily deliver win-win-win outcomes. Kahane's thoughtful and grounded reflections on his own experiences of success and failure show us the way."
-Paulus M. Verschuren, Senior Director, Global Health Partnerships, Unilever
"As leaders in the private, public, and social sectors, we all struggle to navigate tensions. Adam Kahane points out that the polarity of power versus love underpins them all. As long as we approach this polarity with an 'either-or' filter, we will remain stuck; only when we embrace it as an 'and' can we breathe life into change. Kahane shows us how to embody this 'and' and so to lead effectively and gracefully."
-Zafer Achi, Managing Director, Middle East, McKinsey & Company
"International conflict is commonly understood by governments through the lens of realpolitik. The limitations of such a strategic analysis of power is that it does not recognize the power of human motivation. Adam Kahane's wise and insightful book addresses this by integrating the concepts of love and power."
-Gabrielle Rifkind, Director, Human Security in the Middle East Programme, Oxford Research Group
"Kahane addresses the often-neglected need to create alternative social structures in situations where power, competition, and self-interest continue even after deeply entrenched disputes have been 'settled' through conflict resolution and negotiation. Reflective and practical: a must-read."
-Charles Villa-Vicencio, former National Research Director, South African Truth and Reconciliation Commission
"This is not a book about simple solutions to complex problems; it is the tale of a twenty-year pilgrimage, one man's courageous journey into the unknown, a willingness to take on some of the world's most complex and seemingly intractable problems, at the same time working on one's own intractability. Power and Love is the antidote to resignation; it is about the hope and possibility that comes from committing oneself to making a difference in the world."
-Barry Oshry, author of Seeing Systems and Leading Systems
"In the four decades since Martin Luther King's death, change agents across the world have sought to ground themselves in his powerful and loving practice. Adam Kahane's book is a journey and a road map to that practice."
-Michel Gelobter, CEO, Cooler, and former President, Redefining Progress
"Adam's courageous exploration of his struggle with the paradoxes of power and love invites us into our own exploration of this crucial tension. Our capacity to deal with our toughest social challenges-even our survival as a species-depends on our learning to work skillfully with these two fundamental drives."
-Phil Cass, CEO, Columbus Medical Association
"Based on his firsthand experiences working with leaders-from across sectors, organizations, and communities, around the world-who are dealing with tough problems, Kahane's beautifully written book offers a jewel of wisdom to those who want to effect profound social change: learn to speak both the language of power and the language of love."
-Elena Díez Pinto, Executive Director, Soros Foundation-Guatemala, and former Executive Director, Visión Guatemala
"This thought-provoking book will help leaders of social change efforts undertake their challenging work more positively and powerfully."
-Bob Head, CEO, Skandia
"Power and Love expands and refines the analysis of Solving Tough Problems. A renowned practitioner of the delicate art of convening diverse and often warring stakeholders to solve intractable problems together, Kahane has a genius for extracting fundamental insights and principles from complex experiences. This small book will stimulate fresh thinking by researchers, practitioners, and policymakers everywhere who are concerned with catalyzing sustainable social change."
-L. David Brown, Senior Research Fellow, Hauser Center for Nonprofit Organizations, Harvard University
"Power pushes, love pulls. Adam Kahane understands these two fundamental forces like few hands-on practitioners of conflict resolution. Power and Love is that rare jewel-a manual and a sonnet."
-Robert Fuller, author of Dignity for All, All Rise, and Somebodies and Nobodies
"Power and Love outlines Adam's unique approach to solving problems, which enables people to make sense of their world-past, present, and future-so that they can make it better."
-Paul Hanratty, CEO, Long-Term Savings, Old Mutual plc
"Adam Kahane takes systems thinking over into systems doing. He tells us stories of how separated parts are brought-lovingly-into serving the purposes of the whole of the social order. Kahane walks his talk. He is a principled pragmatist."
-Bo Ekman, Founder and Chairman, Tällberg Foundation
"Power without love cannot sustain the long-term, coordinated effort necessary to achieve social change; love without power cannot overcome entrenched interests. Kahane's stories and his wise counsel show how we can work with these apparent opposites to create new worlds."
-Betty Sue Flowers, coauthor of Presence and former Director, Lyndon Baines Johnson Library and Museum
"Adam's book is an important contribution to our understanding of how to co-create new social realities."
-Otto Scharmer, Chair of the Presencing Institute and author of Theory U
Praise for Solving Tough Problems
"This breakthrough book addresses the central challenge of our time: finding a way to work together to solve the problems we have created."
-Nelson Mandela
"A seminal book. Exciting, vital, essential reading."
-Edgar H. Schein, Professor of Management Emeritus, Massachusetts Institute of Technology Sloan School of Management, and author of Process Consultation and Helping
"Our societies face really hard problems-poverty, injustice, sustainability, corruption-that are insoluble by conventional means. Conflicts of interest and profound uncertainties about the future are producing paralysis and inaction. Adam Kahane has, more than anyone, developed and successfully employed tools that enable us to create futures of shared progress and profit."
-Peter Schwartz, Chairman, Global Business Network, and author of The Art of the Long View
"Highly relevant to the global challenges we face today."
-Debra Dunn, Senior Vice President, Hewlett-Packard
"This book should be read by everyone who is concerned with the quality of decision making in our democracies."
-Elena Martinez, Assistant Secretary-General, United Nations
-Ravi Venkatesan, Chairman, Microsoft India
"It isn't either-or; it's both-and. In this deceptively brief and clearly written book, Adam Kahane takes us through his own learning process to a way of acting in and on the world that is both effective and caring. Intelligent, insightful, satisfying-and inspiring."
-Mary Catherine Bateson, author of Composing a Life and Willing to Learn
"Kahane is a master practitioner and thinker who knows the highs and lows of solving some of the toughest problems of social discord. Power and Love is both instructive and inspiring."
-Patrick Dodson, winner of the Sydney Peace Prize and Founding Chairman, Council for Aboriginal Reconciliation
"This book is a must-read for business leaders who are coming to recognize that to continue to thrive, business must join forces with interest groups, communities, and government to address the wicked sustainability challenges of our time. Kahane shows us how."
-Diane Osgood, Vice President, Business for Social Responsibility
"The cynical side of me says that Adam Kahane is unique and that it's his personality and presence that enable him to overcome conflict and create constructive resolutions to stalemates in business and society. But the hopeful side says that yes he is special but that his ideas-which he explains so ably in Power and Love-can be used by others. He writes not from theory but from experience-and draws out the lessons from a lifetime of fostering constructive engagement to deal with the toughest challenges."
-Esther Dyson, founder, EDventure Holdings
"This is a superb book: wise and thoughtful."
-W. Brian Arthur, External Professor, Santa Fe Institute, and author of The Nature of Technology
"If we are to move forward on the many challenges humanity faces, only through a symbiosis of power and love can we enable the social change we need, that both unifies and is sufficiently creative. This book offers a glimpse of what a new praxis of creative collective action might look like."
-Ged Davis, former Managing Director, World Economic Forum, and former Vice President, Royal Dutch Shell
"Reconciling extremes is the challenge of our time. Sharing insights born from working in the trenches of the world's toughest social problems, Adam Kahane calls for the extraordinary measure of embracing the wholeness of our power and our love: the hard and soft in us all. By illuminating this 'uncommon way,' Kahane's message joins the stream of the world's most profound and enduring strategic views."
-James Gimian, publisher, Shambhala Sun, and coauthor of The Rules of Victory
"Mahatma Gandhi's life was the unfolding of the deep truth of the need to change oneself if one wants to change the world. Hence his autobiography was titled My Experiments with Truth. Adam's story of his engagements with people in many countries, whom he was called to help in their efforts to change their worlds, is an account of his own realization of Gandhi's insight. An honest and beautifully told story."
-Arun Maira, member, Planning Commission of the Government of India
"In this evocative and beautifully written narrative, Adam Kahane shares his own journey toward a deeper and more life-affirming understanding of the relationship between love and power-both in ourselves and in the systems we work with. His real-life stories and the lessons they reveal are compelling for all of us who work with complex issues involving multiple stakeholders."
-Juanita Brown, cofounder, The World Café
"This is a courageous book. Too few of us who frequent the halls of power are willing to acknowledge the power of love. Not Adam. In this delicate and sensible book, we see a necessary dialectic, an uneasy partnership of power and love that is essential to solving the problems we face."
-Jay Ogilvy, Dean, Presidio Graduate School, and cofounder, Global Business Network
"This is a remarkable book. Kahane fuses his real experience and earned wisdom into a clear new lens through which social change practitioners and theorists can better see how expressions-and shadows-of love and power shape the outcomes of their efforts to solve complex social problems."
-Ross McMillan, President, Tides Canada
"From climate disruption to health care, from poverty to war, the range of seemingly intractable crises we face today is enough to cause despair in even the most hopeful. Yet these are the kinds of problems that Adam Kahane has grappled with around the world. In Power and Love, Kahane uses these experiences to explore why success in the face of complex challenges requires not just a new understanding of the problems but a new understanding of ourselves."
-Jamais Cascio, cofounder,
"Adam Kahane has mined more than two decades of practice to create a brave, concise, compelling reflection about the mistakes he has made, the lessons he has learned, and the hard-earned theory that now guides his work. Power and Love has a humility that is becoming and a depth that is inspiring."
-Katherine Fulton, President, Monitor Institute
"An extraordinarily insightful and powerful analysis of what it takes to lead change and to make a difference in society. Drawing on his own experiences around the world, Kahane uses his skills of acute observation and honest self-reflection to figure out how to effect deep and lasting social change-starting with oneself."
-Fields Wicker-Miurin, cofounder, Leaders' Quest
"Bringing 'power' and 'love' together in resolving the most intractable social problems is not only unusual, it may also seem unreal. Adam Kahane makes it radically mandatory."
-Njabulo Ndebele, former Vice-Chancellor, University of Cape Town, and author of Fine Lines from the Box
"Adam Kahane is a change agent of the first order. His welcome and timely book will help readers refocus and strengthen their commitment and ability to effect much-needed community and societal change."
-Mari Fitzduff, Professor and Director, Masters Program in Coexistence and Conflict, Brandeis University
"This book is written with great insight and revealing honesty. Adam is a wonderful storyteller, grounds his thinking in reality, and in this book gives us a path to making a lasting difference in the world."
-Peter Block, author of Stewardship, The Answer to How Is Yes, and Community
"Power and Love should be read and reread by anyone seriously committed to addressing tough problems."
-Morris Rosenberg, Deputy Minister of Health, Government of Canada
"A timely book that contains clear lessons about how, why, and when systemic, participatory, and generative interventions, aimed at shaping the future, work or fail."
-Angela Wilkinson, Director of Scenario Planning and Futures Research, Institute for Science, Innovation, and Society, University of Oxford
"Effective and sustainable responses to global health challenges require business, government, and civil society to work together in partnership-but such partnerships do not easily deliver win-win-win outcomes. Kahane's thoughtful and grounded reflections on his own experiences of success and failure show us the way."
-Paulus M. Verschuren, Senior Director, Global Health Partnerships, Unilever
"As leaders in the private, public, and social sectors, we all struggle to navigate tensions. Adam Kahane points out that the polarity of power versus love underpins them all. As long as we approach this polarity with an 'either-or' filter, we will remain stuck; only when we embrace it as an 'and' can we breathe life into change. Kahane shows us how to embody this 'and' and so to lead effectively and gracefully."
-Zafer Achi, Managing Director, Middle East, McKinsey & Company
"International conflict is commonly understood by governments through the lens of realpolitik. The limitations of such a strategic analysis of power is that it does not recognize the power of human motivation. Adam Kahane's wise and insightful book addresses this by integrating the concepts of love and power."
-Gabrielle Rifkind, Director, Human Security in the Middle East Programme, Oxford Research Group
"Kahane addresses the often-neglected need to create alternative social structures in situations where power, competition, and self-interest continue even after deeply entrenched disputes have been 'settled' through conflict resolution and negotiation. Reflective and practical: a must-read."
-Charles Villa-Vicencio, former National Research Director, South African Truth and Reconciliation Commission
"This is not a book about simple solutions to complex problems; it is the tale of a twenty-year pilgrimage, one man's courageous journey into the unknown, a willingness to take on some of the world's most complex and seemingly intractable problems, at the same time working on one's own intractability. Power and Love is the antidote to resignation; it is about the hope and possibility that comes from committing oneself to making a difference in the world."
-Barry Oshry, author of Seeing Systems and Leading Systems
"In the four decades since Martin Luther King's death, change agents across the world have sought to ground themselves in his powerful and loving practice. Adam Kahane's book is a journey and a road map to that practice."
-Michel Gelobter, CEO, Cooler, and former President, Redefining Progress
"Adam's courageous exploration of his struggle with the paradoxes of power and love invites us into our own exploration of this crucial tension. Our capacity to deal with our toughest social challenges-even our survival as a species-depends on our learning to work skillfully with these two fundamental drives."
-Phil Cass, CEO, Columbus Medical Association
"Based on his firsthand experiences working with leaders-from across sectors, organizations, and communities, around the world-who are dealing with tough problems, Kahane's beautifully written book offers a jewel of wisdom to those who want to effect profound social change: learn to speak both the language of power and the language of love."
-Elena Díez Pinto, Executive Director, Soros Foundation-Guatemala, and former Executive Director, Visión Guatemala
"This thought-provoking book will help leaders of social change efforts undertake their challenging work more positively and powerfully."
-Bob Head, CEO, Skandia
"Power and Love expands and refines the analysis of Solving Tough Problems. A renowned practitioner of the delicate art of convening diverse and often warring stakeholders to solve intractable problems together, Kahane has a genius for extracting fundamental insights and principles from complex experiences. This small book will stimulate fresh thinking by researchers, practitioners, and policymakers everywhere who are concerned with catalyzing sustainable social change."
-L. David Brown, Senior Research Fellow, Hauser Center for Nonprofit Organizations, Harvard University
"Power pushes, love pulls. Adam Kahane understands these two fundamental forces like few hands-on practitioners of conflict resolution. Power and Love is that rare jewel-a manual and a sonnet."
-Robert Fuller, author of Dignity for All, All Rise, and Somebodies and Nobodies
"Power and Love outlines Adam's unique approach to solving problems, which enables people to make sense of their world-past, present, and future-so that they can make it better."
-Paul Hanratty, CEO, Long-Term Savings, Old Mutual plc
"Adam Kahane takes systems thinking over into systems doing. He tells us stories of how separated parts are brought-lovingly-into serving the purposes of the whole of the social order. Kahane walks his talk. He is a principled pragmatist."
-Bo Ekman, Founder and Chairman, Tällberg Foundation
"Power without love cannot sustain the long-term, coordinated effort necessary to achieve social change; love without power cannot overcome entrenched interests. Kahane's stories and his wise counsel show how we can work with these apparent opposites to create new worlds."
-Betty Sue Flowers, coauthor of Presence and former Director, Lyndon Baines Johnson Library and Museum
"Adam's book is an important contribution to our understanding of how to co-create new social realities."
-Otto Scharmer, Chair of the Presencing Institute and author of Theory U
Praise for Solving Tough Problems
"This breakthrough book addresses the central challenge of our time: finding a way to work together to solve the problems we have created."
-Nelson Mandela
"A seminal book. Exciting, vital, essential reading."
-Edgar H. Schein, Professor of Management Emeritus, Massachusetts Institute of Technology Sloan School of Management, and author of Process Consultation and Helping
"Our societies face really hard problems-poverty, injustice, sustainability, corruption-that are insoluble by conventional means. Conflicts of interest and profound uncertainties about the future are producing paralysis and inaction. Adam Kahane has, more than anyone, developed and successfully employed tools that enable us to create futures of shared progress and profit."
-Peter Schwartz, Chairman, Global Business Network, and author of The Art of the Long View
"Highly relevant to the global challenges we face today."
-Debra Dunn, Senior Vice President, Hewlett-Packard
"This book should be read by everyone who is concerned with the quality of decision making in our democracies."
-Elena Martinez, Assistant Secretary-General, United Nations